I am always amazed watching normal/thin people say ‘No’ to food. You know what I mean. ‘Would like a slice of pie?’, ‘No, thank you.’ Huh? If someone ever offered me a piece of pie, I would most graciously say ‘yes’. 
Could I even turn down a slice of pie, ever? Even at Thanksgiving, when we are full to the limit with turkey and mashed potatoes and gravy and stuffing and all the yummy trimmings, there always somehow seems to be room for pie. I don’t know where I picked up this inability to say ‘no’ to foods offered to me. Am I just being gracious? Am I truly hungry? Do I just want that high I get from carbs? Or is it just that I’m cheap and can’t refuse a free offer? Who knows. It’s probably some combination of the above. But it’s true, I don’t seem to have the word ‘no’ in my foodie vocabulary.
I notice that my normal-sized boyfriend always turns down my offers of food. ‘Do you want a cookie?’, ‘No, thanks’, ‘Do you want some cake?’, ‘Nope, I’m good’, ‘Would you like some dinner?’, ‘Nah, not hungry’. How does he do it? Is he truly not hungry? Or does he possess some superpower I am unaware of? Ask me any of those above questions and I guarantee my answer will be ‘yes’. Granted, I know my boyfriend isn’t that much into sweets (I know, the horror!), so I get that it’s easy for him to turn down my goodie offers. But still. I could ask him, ‘Honey, want some steak?’ (cause most men go weak at the knees for grilled beef products) And many times he’ll still say ‘no’.
What I wonder though, is do people like that consciously say ‘no’ as a choice? Like sure they would REALLY like some pie, but realize it’s not good for them and refuse the offer? Or do they truly not have the same urges and cravings? I wonder. I’ve asked my boyfriend about this, and his answer usually is ‘nope, I just don’t want it’… Don’t want pie??? Crazy talk. Everyone wants pie… don’t they? Is there some innate switch inside normal/thin people that turns off that automatic ‘yes’ answer? Is our switch broken? Are we (the chubby ones) stuck in the ‘on’ position, and forced (ok I know not FORCED, but ya know) to say ‘yes’? I mean I honestly can’t remember the last time I turned down an offer of food. Probably the only time was when I had the stomach flu and couldn’t keep anything down. Even then, I still managed to eat some soup and crackers when it was offered to me.
I keep thinking I have to work on exercising my right to say ‘no’ to sweets. I know they are not good for me. I know they don’t add any essential nutrients to my daily diet. I know they make me fat. But despite all this knowing… I still say ‘yes’. Maybe from being fat so long and saying ‘yes’ to all the crap over the years, I’ve just gotten out of practice in saying’ no’. I think just like anything in life, it takes practice. By no means do I expect to always say ‘no’ to my favorite baked goods, but I think I can start consciously throwing in a ‘no’ here and there. I always say it’s the little things we can do to help ourselves that add up. Just saying ‘no’ to a piece of pie 3 times a week, for example, adds up to 18 pounds in a year in excess calories! I’m going to do my little part today. I made a fresh batch of brownies yesterday, but I think today I will say ‘no’. I can wrap them up and put them in the freezer where they can wait for me another day. I can say ‘no’!
